4 Words To Remember For Your Self-Worth

Why Doesn't the Narcissist answer questions?

The Aftermath of Growing up in a Narcissistic Family

Narcissists and Entitlement

Gaslighting

Are You Feeling Sad? | WATCH THIS | Mufti Menk

Don't Disturb People ᴴᴰ | Mufti Menk

Public Image Ltd - Rise

Public Image Ltd - F.F.F

Bob Dylan - Positively 4th Street

The Narcissist Will Crash & Burn When Confronted By A Group

You'll Still Be Angry When The Narcissist Dies

The Moment The Narcissist Broke You

Keeping The Narcissist's Enablers Around Puts You At Risk

Fire A Narc TODAY!

The Enabler Of The Narcissist Is The Wizard Of Oz

Totally describes my malignant narc x Parents  & their 3 ENABLER Golden Children Sons.

They're ALL Fired! Good Riddance to  Bad Rubbish; the putrid, demented LOT of them!

Go With Your Gut When Dealing With The Narcissist

It's Timex Time!

Narc VS The Artist

Narc Mother Falsely-Accuses Artist Daughter of Being "An ART THIEF" (of Her Own Art!) all to Scam  A Free Painting.

Narc Mother In Scapegoat's Medical Emergency

Incompetent Narc Mother lets DRUNK surgeon operate on AWAKE 12 year old scapegoat daughter (Me) with improperly-injected/not-working TOPICAL anaesthetic & I saw my blood & GUTS & was terrorized! Left with horrific scar.

"But she's your MOTHER. HOW can a Mother treat her own Daughter LIKE this?" 

BELOW this note is a VERY GOOD VIDEO from Narcissism Survivor that partially answers that question. 

All good reasons Tom presents here in his video. My own narc X Mother saw how rebellious I was and RESENTED how I (unlike her) did not 'step-in-line; knowing My Place' & just TAKE it (the parental narcissistic-abuse)... like the 'Good Girl' SHE'D been. Also, the fact that I *AMICABLY* left my marriage while SHE, in turn, STAYED in her VIOLENT, *ABUSIVE* marriage to my Narc x"Dad"... (while I had NEVER been abused by MY husband)... secretly outraged her as she always purported to be *"Standing By Her Man like a good wife ought to & riding the wave of good- times/bad-times like A Good Wife "* ...so, I think she resented me breaking some 'RULE' she was falsely-convinced existed that lead her to believe she had to DO that & so there seemed to be this vibe of resentment in a: *"How can it be that lowly YOU , of all people, gets to DO this & be single?* *YOU'RE not playing by the RULES.You're being DEFIANT!"* (She's Catholic btw so that old "divorce=sin" crap presided...even tho she sins liberally, she'd cherry-pick WHICH 'rule' counts to substantiate behavioral nonsense she's doing) She also resented that I did not obsess & prioritize keeping my place as tidy as she kept HERS & that I'd frequently go out without makeup or doing my hair or dressing-to- impress. I was also resented for "talking back'' (aka not agreeing with everything she said) & DARING to express my own opinions & do what I wanted with MY LIFE. (She DEEPLY resented THAT.) In her eyes, I was breaking all the RULES she was convinced EXISTED re: "What constitutes Being A GOOD Daughter" I think, (not even so 'secretly') that ... She WISHED she could hit REWIND on her life & do what I 'dared' to do. (Be autonomous, think for myself & Dare To Create) So I conclude that Malignant Narcissistic Mothers are pathologically envious of their scapegoat Daughters on far deeper levels than *just* the viable examples of COMPETITION over Youth, Sex-Appeal & Beauty. Narc Mothers resent our Advantages & the courage of the Daughter to Seize Opportunities that either weren't available to her or that she was too fearful or INEPT to seize... (COURAGE that the Mother perceives as GALL)... and the narc Mother overall envies that her scapegoat Daughter was born in a time where women HAVE more say & overall Societal-Acceptance these days to BE, dress & think and LIVE how they choose. So the Malignant Narcissistic Mother is jealous of the courage & of The Times their scapegoat, assertive-Daughters are born into. Envy over the scapegoat Daughter exercising her right to make her own Life- Choices. The aged Narc Mother thought she did not HAVE that right to choose & viewed her scapegoat Daughter as being insubordinate...particularly against HER & viewed her Daughter as being 'obstinate' & "defiant" for cultivating her autonomy. The Narc Mother is pathologically envious of any achievements of her Daughter

(particularly those of artistic merit) & is under the impression the daughter is undeserving of any laurels obtained as a result

of her achievements. 

The cruel, unrealistic ideals, comparisons & standards demanded by the narcissistic Mother of her scapegoat Daughter are made specifically not to guide but rather...

to incite a sense of perpetual-inferiority within her target

with the narc's sole purpose being to exact their sadism to cause & feed off the pain they cruelly seek to bring to their targets.

This is intentional & the narc KNOWS the ideal she sets IS unattainable. In fact, the narc Mother ensures it is by constantly altering her demands so that, even if the target strove to BE that what is demanded, the narc would demand more or change her game to demand some different 'ideal' she's seeking in her scapegoat daughter; just so long as end-conclusion is that The scapegoated Daughter STILL is accused of being INFERIOR.

I believe the end goal is not REALLY even to convince the daughter to achieve that ''presented ideal-status'' but, rather, that constant comparison is said with REAL goal being:

To oppress the target, discourage autonomy, inflict pain, imply inferiority & reinforce reliance on the narc or better yet, induce the scapegoat's SUICIDE: The narc's twisted, ultimate "WIN".

The Malignant Narcissist Mother resents that her imagined "superiority & authority" over her Scapegoat Daughter is, in fact... a fallacy; that her unsolicited OPINION Just. Doesn't. Matter.

Daniel Johnston